22mo–3y10 minSelf-careToiletingMealtime
Needs Detective: Notice, Name, Respond
A gentle routine to help you notice how your child communicates needs (food, drink, toileting, discomfort) and respond promptly with simple words and consistent cues that support clearer communication over time.
What you'll need
Essentials
- a small snack (or meal moment you’re already doing)
- a small cup with a small amount of water
- a comfort item (cloth, favourite soft toy, or a jumper)
Nice to have
- a simple picture/gesture cue for “drink”, “eat”, “toilet”, “help” (drawn on paper)
- a towel for quick wipe-ups
Movement level: low
What you'll do
The 4-step guide, with what to look for at each step, is for signed-in parents.
What this develops
- MilestoneGestures wants or needsMind· 10mo–2.3y· core· Step 1
- MilestoneCan tell adults when hungry or tired or when they want to rest or play.Body· 2.5y–4.2y· core· Steps 1, 2
- MilestoneClearly communicates their need for potty or toilet.Body· 22mo–3y· core· Step 1
- MilestoneDrinks well without spillingBody· 22mo–3y· stretch· Step 2
- MilestoneBegins self-care independenceBody· 22mo–3y· core
- MilestoneShows object-function knowledgeMind· 2.7y–5y· core· Step 2
- MilestoneParticipates in hygiene routinesBody· 15mo–2.3y· stretch
- MilestoneHelps manage clothingBody· 21mo–3y· stretch
What it practices
Where it comes from
- Source
- Development Matters in the EYFS (DfE, 2012)
- Original guidance
- “Respond to how child communicates need for food, drinks, toileting and when uncomfortable.”
- License
- Open Government Licence v3.0
- Attribution
- © Crown Copyright 2012 (Development Matters in the EYFS, DfE)