Skill· 12mo–2y· 2 min

Emotion mirroring

Parent reflects and names the toddler's current emotional state with warmth, especially during hard moments. Toddlers are big-feelings beings. Agent coaches the parent to match the child's affect and label the feeling without trying to fix it.

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What you'll need

Use this with a moment when your child is having a feeling — not a full meltdown necessarily, any emotion will do. You can also practise it when they's happy.

How it works

  1. 1~20s

    Look at them. What's their body saying? Tight shoulders? Open face? Scrunched eyes? Tell me what you see.

    Watch for: parent_identifies_child_current_affective_state

  2. 2~20s

    Now soften your face to match their. If they's frustrated, your face softens into 'I see you're frustrated.' Say it gently: 'You're frustrated. That's hard.' Don't fix. Just mirror and name.

    Watch for: child_registers_parent_reflection

  3. 3~60s

    Don't move to solving. Stay. If they moves toward you, receive them. If they needs space, give it. Your job is to be available.

    Watch for: parent_remains_available_without_pressing

What this develops

Visual example

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